Today is my 38th birthday. What a big number. I don’t have a problem getting older but 38 is a lot more closer to 40 than it was last year. I have this love/hate relationship with my birthday. It was never a thing for me. It was always a day on which I reflect. Reflect on how I feel, my life and what ever else. Although grateful, I never want anyone to make a fuss about it.
In this 38 years, this is what I’ve learnt so far.
Being a mom taught me to be selfless. There is so my things you sacrifice for your kids, some of which you can never get back. (like sleep!) I love being a mom but as soon as they set foot outside the door, worry and fear creeps in. In the end I just have to trust in God to protect them when they are not with me. As a mom you need to be strong for the days when they don’t act the way you want them to and just savor the moments they make you proud.
“To have a friend, you need to be a friend”
As a mom, I need friends. People that helps me stay sane. Making time for friends is difficult as a mom – for men it’s so much easier. Also, knowing who your real friends are is just as important. People who understands you, helps build you up, motivates you and friends who doesn’t hold back on the truth.
Where you want to be spiritually is your choice. It’s what you put in. Pray more, read the Word more and you will see the growth. I know for a fact that I need God in my everyday life and by putting him first, I give Him the permission to bring on my path, only the things that is good for me.
Life and Goals
I’ve learnt that setting goals for yourself is imperative. I’ve also learnt that you cannot set goals and do nothing about it. Take action, work hard and go out of your way to make things happen. Life brings us so much opportunities, grab hold of it with two hands. Look for the positive in everything instead of focusing on the negative.
Family comes first. Everything else is secondary. Making time for and building a relationship with family and even extended family has benefited my children so much. One day, when my husband and I are no longer here, our kids will always have family to love and support them.
Marriage is good. No, it’s actually GREAT! It is what you make of it and how hard you work at it. And making it work is very important to me. Modeling a healthy marriage relationship in front of my kids is top priority. The sooner you realize that you and your husband is on the same team, the quicker you’ll find out what love and being in love is. Choose each other every single day. There will be days when your partner will irritate the crap out of you but if you make the conscious decision to love them every day, all of that negativity will just melt away.
I am grateful for so many things in my life and I am looking forward to the next 38 years!